6 signs your relationship isn’t making you happy

 

6 signs your relationship isn’t making you happy (and you don’t know exactly why)

Being in a relationship is often hard work, especially if you want a healthy and thriving relationship. 

But sometimes, we feel like the relationship or marriage should be better and more satisfying. This could be a fleeting moment, but it could also be one that’s lingering. Maybe you had different expectations, or your partner changed. Maybe you changed. There are many reasons we can’t quite put our fingers on. 

So, without further ado, here are some signs your relationship isn’t making you happy. 

1) Constant arguments

When you’re in a relationship, it’s natural to have disagreements from time to time. My wife and I argue all the time, mainly because of our son, who’s admittedly a handful. 

Before having a kid, we rarely, if ever, argued. This is another testament to just how much kids change the relationship between two people. Often in a negative way. 

However, if these arguments become a daily occurrence and you’re unable to have a peaceful conversation, it takes a toll on your happiness. 

You’re also left feeling like you’re constantly on edge, and that’s not a pleasant place to be.

Constant disputes about money also create significant stress. When you can’t agree on budgeting, spending, or saving, it’s like there’s a storm cloud hovering over your finances, casting a shadow on your happiness.

In any case, you have to work on the underlying reasons for arguing if you want to have a better and long-lasting relationship (or marriage).

2) Lack of communication

The only thing worse than constant bickering is a lack of communication. Imagine coming home after a tough day and you can’t even talk to your partner about what’s bothering you. 

When it comes to that, you clearly have a wall between you, and there’s definitely something devastatingly wrong. 

In many cases, only a professional can help couples who are at this stage to reinvigorate their relationship again.

This lack of open communication regularly results in frustration and a sense of loneliness because there’s a lack of affection and intimacy. 

3) Lack of affection/intimacy

In a loving relationship, those warm, cozy hugs and sweet kisses are like the secret sauce that binds you and your partner together. 

They’re the special ingredients that make your connection extra delicious. But when these affectionate moments are missing, it’s a bit like having a sandwich without the filling – there’s no salami and cheese, and it leaves you feeling a little empty inside.

You’re sitting on the same couch, sharing a meal, or even in the same bed, but if that emotional connection is MIA, it’s as if you’re in a crowded room full of people, but you’re still all alone in your thoughts. 

It’s that deep, heart-to-heart connection that truly makes you feel happy and content in a relationship.

4) You’re always compromising

Healthy relationships involve give and take. But if you’re the only one giving in to your partner’s wishes, it leaves you feeling like your needs and desires aren’t being considered, which is frustrating.

Think of it as planning a road trip with your partner, and you’re the one who always agrees to their choice of music, stops, and snacks. 

At first, it might seem like no big deal, but as the miles go by, you start to realize that your voice doesn’t matter in this journey. 

Your needs and preferences take a backseat, and that’s frustrating because a real road trip should be about both of you enjoying the ride, not just one person dictating the entire route. 

In a relationship, compromise should be a two-way street to keep things fair and balanced.

5) You have unresolved issues

Think of unresolved issues in your relationship like a pile of dirty laundry. If you keep ignoring it, it’ll only pile up and make the room stink. 

In the same way, unresolved problems can lead to bitterness and unhappiness over time. As you continue to avoid tackling these issues, the emotional stench becomes more overpowering. The bitterness and resentment grow with each passing day, making it difficult to breathe freely within your relationship.

That’s why addressing and resolving the issues in your relationship is essential to preserving a happy and healthy connection. 

On the other hand, ignoring them results in a gradual deterioration of your happiness and contentment within the relationship.

6) You’re feeling unappreciated

Feeling unappreciated in a relationship can be deeply disheartening. It’s like carefully crafting a beautiful piece of art and presenting it to someone, only for them to barely glance at it, let alone acknowledge the effort and thought that went into it. 

You start questioning yourself if all of this is really worth it if your partner doesn’t even see your effort. 

You also start to wonder whether your partner truly values and cares about you or if your efforts are taken for granted. 

Over time, you end up with a growing sense of unhappiness and frustration as you seek the recognition and appreciation that every person deserves.

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